Keep your body clean. Girls don’t want to deal with your week-old
BO. Man, YOU don’t want to deal with your week-old BO. Take regular
showers and use deodorant. It will surprise you how much of a difference
this makes if you haven’t been doing this already.
Wear nice clothes. It’s not like you have to go around wearing Armani or anything, just wear clothes that fit, suit your body, don’t have holes or stains, and don’t look like they were the height of fashion in 1986. Don’t worry so much about brands: a girl worth having won’t care what brand of clothing you wear. Just make sure you’re dressed such that she wouldn’t be embarrassed to be seen with you.
Smell amazing. Just like you love a girl who smells like a perfect princess fresh out of fairy land, girls love it when men smell amazing too. You can do this by first keeping your body clean, and then adding a nice scent. This can be as simple as getting a really nice smelling deodorant. If you want to go a bit further, you can try cologne or body sprays. Just make sure that the smell is subtle and that you put it on correctly. She doesn’t want you to smell like you bathed in Axe.
Maintain your body. Just like guys usually prefer a fairly skinny girl, girls usually prefer decently fit guys. Don’t feel like you have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, because she won’t care so much whether you have a six pack or not…just get yourself to a point where you’re healthy and comfortable…say, walking up a large hill. This will make you feel better in your own skin and help attract women.
Find your talents. Everybody is attracted to people who can do cool things. Now, you probably already have a talent or the potential for a talent that you don’t know about. You need to find that talent and feed it. Even if it isn’t a classically attractive talent like playing an instrument, nurturing your talent and spending time with people who do the same thing will give you the opportunity to meet girls who enjoy the same things you do.
Be exciting. Don’t be the guy who sits at home all weekend, eating Funyuns and playing COD. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted, but you still need to spend your time doing exciting things. If you’re introverted, start writing a book or teaching yourself an art. If you’re more comfortable talking to people and getting outside, go do those things. Join a club, go hiking, volunteer, whatever.
Be kind and respectful to everybody. While you’re probably not walking around, if you have a bad attitude and you treat other people poorly, you are going to have a hard time attracting women. Even if you’re nice to women you want to date but a total jerk to everyone else, women will notice. Be nice, legitimately nice, and respectful towards everyone and women will be reasonably assured that they can always expect the same.
Be stable. Be stable by having a good job, doing the things you say that you will, and generally being responsible. Don’t think that women want you to have an awesome job so that they’ll be taken care of; they just want to know that you won’t be a dead weight! Just like you might not want to have to support a girl who does nothing, women don’t want a guy who sits around all day eating Cheetos. If you show her that you can pay your bills and hold down a good job, she’ll be much more likely to want to date you.
Be her knight in shining armor. Being her knight in armor isn’t about treating her like she can’t do things for herself. It’s about giving her the tools she needs to rescue herself. Be emotionally supportive when she’s had a bad day. Help her talk through her problems so that she can find a solution. When she asks you for help or advice, give it, without judgement or criticism. Find ways that you can make her life easier and help her achieve the things she wants for her life.
Don’t be a jerk. You could be Jon Hamm, it doesn’t matter: women are not obligated to want to date you. Remember that. Just think, if some girl you found unattractive and boring started shouting about how you were a loser or something, how would you feel? Sometimes people just don’t connect. That’s not your fault and it’s not her fault either. Just keep trying and you’ll find Ms. Perfect.
Give girls their freedom. Girls don’t want to date someone who’s really clingy or controlling. If you have girl friends that you’re hoping to catch the eye of, show them that you’re perfectly happy to go do your own thing without them. Don’t annoy them by constantly asking to hang out, don’t ask to go everywhere with them (or follow them around without asking!), don’t try to trap them in a corner when you want to talk, and don’t try to guilt them or manipulate them into going places with you. Show girls that they are free to go where they want and do what they want, and if they want a buddy along for the ride, you’re there for them.
Don’t be a follower. Start trends, don’t follow them. Girls are attracted to guys they perceive as cool. Try to be independent and show your own personality, rather than copying what the other guys are doing.
Wear nice clothes. It’s not like you have to go around wearing Armani or anything, just wear clothes that fit, suit your body, don’t have holes or stains, and don’t look like they were the height of fashion in 1986. Don’t worry so much about brands: a girl worth having won’t care what brand of clothing you wear. Just make sure you’re dressed such that she wouldn’t be embarrassed to be seen with you.
Smell amazing. Just like you love a girl who smells like a perfect princess fresh out of fairy land, girls love it when men smell amazing too. You can do this by first keeping your body clean, and then adding a nice scent. This can be as simple as getting a really nice smelling deodorant. If you want to go a bit further, you can try cologne or body sprays. Just make sure that the smell is subtle and that you put it on correctly. She doesn’t want you to smell like you bathed in Axe.
Maintain your body. Just like guys usually prefer a fairly skinny girl, girls usually prefer decently fit guys. Don’t feel like you have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, because she won’t care so much whether you have a six pack or not…just get yourself to a point where you’re healthy and comfortable…say, walking up a large hill. This will make you feel better in your own skin and help attract women.
- It’s not that they’re vain or hung up on societal ideas about weight, it’s more that not exercising shows that you don’t really care about yourself enough to keep your body healthy (even if that’s not true).
- If you’ve both got a couple of extra pounds, you better be prepared to work on your own weight if you’re going to ask her to work on hers.
Find your talents. Everybody is attracted to people who can do cool things. Now, you probably already have a talent or the potential for a talent that you don’t know about. You need to find that talent and feed it. Even if it isn’t a classically attractive talent like playing an instrument, nurturing your talent and spending time with people who do the same thing will give you the opportunity to meet girls who enjoy the same things you do.
Be exciting. Don’t be the guy who sits at home all weekend, eating Funyuns and playing COD. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted, but you still need to spend your time doing exciting things. If you’re introverted, start writing a book or teaching yourself an art. If you’re more comfortable talking to people and getting outside, go do those things. Join a club, go hiking, volunteer, whatever.
Be kind and respectful to everybody. While you’re probably not walking around, if you have a bad attitude and you treat other people poorly, you are going to have a hard time attracting women. Even if you’re nice to women you want to date but a total jerk to everyone else, women will notice. Be nice, legitimately nice, and respectful towards everyone and women will be reasonably assured that they can always expect the same.
Be stable. Be stable by having a good job, doing the things you say that you will, and generally being responsible. Don’t think that women want you to have an awesome job so that they’ll be taken care of; they just want to know that you won’t be a dead weight! Just like you might not want to have to support a girl who does nothing, women don’t want a guy who sits around all day eating Cheetos. If you show her that you can pay your bills and hold down a good job, she’ll be much more likely to want to date you.
Be her knight in shining armor. Being her knight in armor isn’t about treating her like she can’t do things for herself. It’s about giving her the tools she needs to rescue herself. Be emotionally supportive when she’s had a bad day. Help her talk through her problems so that she can find a solution. When she asks you for help or advice, give it, without judgement or criticism. Find ways that you can make her life easier and help her achieve the things she wants for her life.
Don’t be a jerk. You could be Jon Hamm, it doesn’t matter: women are not obligated to want to date you. Remember that. Just think, if some girl you found unattractive and boring started shouting about how you were a loser or something, how would you feel? Sometimes people just don’t connect. That’s not your fault and it’s not her fault either. Just keep trying and you’ll find Ms. Perfect.
Give girls their freedom. Girls don’t want to date someone who’s really clingy or controlling. If you have girl friends that you’re hoping to catch the eye of, show them that you’re perfectly happy to go do your own thing without them. Don’t annoy them by constantly asking to hang out, don’t ask to go everywhere with them (or follow them around without asking!), don’t try to trap them in a corner when you want to talk, and don’t try to guilt them or manipulate them into going places with you. Show girls that they are free to go where they want and do what they want, and if they want a buddy along for the ride, you’re there for them.
Don’t be a follower. Start trends, don’t follow them. Girls are attracted to guys they perceive as cool. Try to be independent and show your own personality, rather than copying what the other guys are doing.